Comments on: Can we fall out of love?

By: Liliana Rizopulos

Liliana Rizopulos — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 08:35:22 +0000

Hi Diego,
Interesting discussion, well, I agree, you can fall out of love. In fact, I think it could be easier than falling in love once rutine and time have kicked in. But I don’t agree with the fact that you will never really stop loving those you once loved. It sounds beautiful but I see it much more complicated than that. Truly loving is not easy because it requires compromise , understanding, giving, and even forgeting about our selfishness. Some people work really hard so that you will stop loving them! It could be just by don’t loving you back but also by doing things that don’t have anything to do with you directly but may help you stop loving them and even to like them.
My love experience is fantastic. I have been married for ten years and still IN love, but I must recognize that you need to work on your relationship everyday, not only doing an effort to continue being in love and ignoring the anoying, but also trying to be loved by being less anoying yourself, less egoistic, selfcentered and all those confortable things that one could be. I am realistic, and for the experience of many around me, I must say that love really can go down the drain.
Ps. sorry for being so pesimistic

DIEGO’s RESPONSE:
Hi Liliana, good to see you engaging in a dialogue with myself and other readers in this blog. I don’t think you’re pessimistic; you simply have a different (and some would say more realistic!) view of the intricacies of love.

I still believe that deep within ourselves, we don’t stop loving others; we simply choose not to spend more time and/or energy with them.

By: Marta

Marta — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 09:41:55 +0000

It’s almost 4:30 am and I can’t sleep. You’re many hours ahead of me so I imagine you’re enjoying a nice peaceful Sunday with your family.

I decided to come back to your website (now I’m more awake than ever!) and I couldn’t believe what that woman Vikki wrote. I had to laugh.. it’s so immature .. She probably didn’t understand half of what she read. It’s ludicrous.

I must say you’re a real gentleman. I would have sent her… you know where..

Saludos.

DIEGO’s RESPONSE:
Hi Marta, and thanks for your generous comment. My Dad taught me how to be a gentleman, and although I can’t always follow his teachings I try; it is good to see some of his teachings became part of my habits

I hope you will subscribe to my blog and come back to participate in the dialogue any time you find an article that resonates with you.

By: Vikki

Vikki — Thu, 21 Feb 2008 19:12:14 +0000

Comment 1: omg your a lezz
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Comment 2: How Sick Ew :@

Vikki,

thank you for your comment. I am not sure I understand what you meant, but maybe it will make sense to some of our readers, so I decided to let the comment go in this section. I took the liberty of copying both comments into the one place.

–The crazy Colombian

By: moriahjoy

moriahjoy — Sat, 24 Nov 2007 02:22:25 +0000

Thanks for the thoughtful post and for the dialogue. I loved your reflections on my question and furthermore hearing about your Friday night meetings while in university…I had a similiar group, well, I should say I have had quite a few groups through the years that are akin but the most recent found us discussing the same topics over dinner and a glass of wine; those friends have now scattered to four states…so I’m eagerly awaiting the next group to form. =)

I especially loved the warmth of your piece.

Thanks for your kind words. Sounds like we do have a lot in common, beyond our music and comic book taste Good luck with your blogging!

–Diego